If you broke up with your partner because he just doesn't meet your expectations... don't sulk in and blame yourself completely. Chin up and give yourself a pat on a shoulder and say, "You did it". I won't say "Good Job" because hurting someone is never an achievement. But praise yourself because you were able to not become an all gaga over love. You were able to see the other side of the story. You became more rational and more mature.
We have to face it... fighting for love against all the odds can be so tiring and disappointing sometimes. We all have to admit that sometimes, what we really wanted is a not so complicated relationship. It's okay to fight for what you believe in and to fight for whom you truly love BUT it's never okay if it's only one-sided.
In a relationship, both must mature and progress. The two of you should exert extra effort to correct and improve on what is wrong. When I say extra effort, It's like getting a score of 75 over 100 instead of just 50 over 100.
As you grow old and as your relationship grows old as well, you will realize that LOVE is not enough to make it last. Love is only a major ingredient. A cake won't be made as a cake without the eggs, sugar and icing. A million won't be called a million if a cent is missing...
Because in reality, if you wanted to be truely happy and stress free, both of you should also become stable, responsible and mature. Unless both of you are now in the 60's or 70's of age, the two of you should be capable of helping each other out. You are still young! You deserve to enjoy the moment so slack off those drama every day. It's okay to have some drama, but if the sad and disappointing moments overpass the supposed to be in love and enjoyable moments, then you should think again. If it seems everything and everyone just goes against your relationship and only one is fixing the problem, then close your eyes, gather all your strength and say, "I need space" or "We need to break up". Remember, it takes two to tango. You can't fight a war without a gun. You need each other. If the other one is not interested or is not making an effort in fixing what is wrong, then it's time to give up.
If there's something wrong on a relationship and it can't be fixed and it keeps on coming back and it keeps on getting worst, then it's time to let go. Get out of that complicated situation before its too late. You deserve to be happy. Hell, girl, you deserved to be pampered.
Because in reality, it's not really just about the kisses and i love yous.
It's also about having the assurance that you are heading to the right direction, that both of you are capable of building your future. If you always had doubts, let go and move on. Hey! it's not easy to be the first to break it up and but it's also not easy if you are always disappointed with your partner. Don't worry. Everything will eventually turn out right.